Think First

‘If anyone does not stumble in what he says, he is mature, able also to control the whole body.’ James 3:2

The Bible has a lot to say about the danger of our words. James devotes an entire chapter to this subject: ‘For we all stumble in many ways. If anyone does not stumble in what he says, he is mature, able also to control the whole body.’ James 3:2.

Now, there is an aspect of self-control to consider! The Greek sage Publius said, ‘I have often regretted my speech, but never my silence.’

And novelist William Edward Norris wrote, ‘If your lips would keep from slips, five things observe with care; to whom you speak, of whom you speak, and how, and when, and where.’

King David puts it this way: ‘I will guard my ways that I may not sin with my tongue; I will guard my mouth as with a muzzle …’ Psalm 39:1.

That’s what it takes—a muzzle! David is talking about making a conscious commitment to watch what you say, and if you want to accomplish this, here are three principles you need to live by:

1) Think first. Before you speak, pause for ten seconds and mentally preview your words. Are they accurate or exaggerated? Kind or cutting? Needless or necessary? Grateful or complaining? What you don’t say today, you won’t have to explain tomorrow.

2) Talk less. Your chances of getting into trouble increase exponentially when you talk too much. That’s why compulsive talkers often find it hard to keep friends. Conserve your verbal energy.

3) Start today. Already, you have read enough to help bring your tongue into submission. So take the time to think before you speak and watch how it enriches your life.